As soon as we found out there was a complication with the pregnancy, Satan started whispering lies to me. My Mom warned me of this and reminded me that he was like a lion looking to devour the weakest animal. This trial has made me feel so weak, but doesn’t the devil know that when I am weak, then I am strong?
2 Corinthians 12:9,10 But he said to me, “My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.” Therefore I will boast all the more gladly about my weaknesses, so that Christ’s power may rest on me. That is why, for Christ’s sake, I delight in weaknesses, in insults, in hardships, in persecutions, in difficulties. For when I am weak, then I am strong.
Oh Satan, you are wasting your breath on me. Today I am exposing your lies that you have so “cunningly” fed me over the past few months. I am rebuking you with the sword that cuts deeper than any other, that separates bone and marrow. (Hebrews 4:12) You are preying on the wrong person, don’t you know who my God is? He is the one who has already defeated you. You are a dead man walking. Your greatest weapon is death. Is that all you have? My God conquered death forever.
1 Corinthians 15:55 O death, where is your sting? O grave, where is your victory?
Acts 2:24 But God raised Him from the dead, freeing Him from the agony of death, because it was impossible for death to keep its hold on Him.
Satan’s Lie: You are a bad mother, so God didn’t want to trust you with any more children.
GOD’S TRUTH: There are no perfect people and there are no perfect parents.
Romans 3:23 For all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God.
Matthew 5:45 For He makes His sun rise on the evil and on the good, and sends rain on the just and on the unjust.
He loves to give his children good gifts.
Matthew 7:9-11 Which one of you, if his son asks him for bread, will give him a stone? Or if he asks for a fish, will give him a serpent? If you then, who are evil, know how to give good gifts to your children, how much more will your Father who is in heaven give good things to those who ask him!
Satan’s Lie: God killed Lucy. God wanted to hurt you.
GOD’S TRUTH: God doesn’t hurt His children. He loves me even more than I love my own children. He loves Lucy more than I do.
Lamentations 3:33 For He does not willingly bring affliction or grief to anyone.
Romans 8:32 He who did not spare His own Son but gave Him up for us all, how will He not also with Him graciously give us all things?
Jeremiah 31:3 I have loved you with an everlasting love, therefore I have continued my faithfulness to you.
Satan’s Lie: See what happened with Lucy? You can’t trust a God who would let that happen.
GOD’S TRUTH: Even if I don’t understand why He allows bad things to happen, I know for sure that He has a good plan for my life. I know that He loves me so much that He sacrificed His own baby boy for me.
Isaiah 55:8,9 For my thoughts are not your thoughts, neither are your ways my ways, declares the Lord. For as the heavens are higher than the earth, so are my ways higher than your ways and my thoughts than your thoughts.
Romans 8:28 And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love Him, who have been called according to His purpose.
John 3:16 For God so loved the world, that He gave His only Son, that whoever believes in Him should not perish but have eternal life.
Romans 5:8 But God demonstrates His own love for us in this: While we were still sinners, Christ died for us.
Satan’s Lie: The other women who get to keep their babies have a better life than you.
This has been the hardest one for me, so I’ve written the most scripture with this one.
GOD’S TRUTH: Perhaps their lives are easier right now, but that doesn’t mean they are better. True satisfaction comes from having a close relationship with God. No one has a perfect life, everyone suffers.
Jeremiah 29:11 For I know the plans that I have for you declares the Lord, plans for welfare and not calamity, to give you a future and a hope.
Lasting joy doesn’t come from the things we have. It comes from God.
Psalm 4:7 You have put more joy in my heart than they have when their grain and wine abound.
Ecclesiastes 3:1,4 There is a time for everything, and a season for every activity under heaven…a time to weep and a time to laugh, a time to mourn and a time to dance.
Their laughing and dancing is now, my weeping and mourning is now. Just because our lives are in different stages doesn’t mean their life is better than mine.
God calls us to different things. We are all unique and we each have a unique set of circumstances.
John 18:11 So Jesus said to Peter, “Put your sword into its sheath; shall I not drink the cup that the Father has given me?”
John 21:18-22 “I tell you the truth, when you were younger you dressed yourself and went where you wanted; but when you are old you will stretch out your hands, and someone else will dress you and lead you where you do not want to go.” Jesus said this to indicate the kind of death by which Peter would glorify God (crucifixion.) Then He said to him, “Follow me!” Peter turned and saw that the disciple whom Jesus loved was following them…When Peter saw him he asked, “Lord, what about him?” Jesus answered, “If I want him to remain alive until I return, what is that to you? You must follow me.”
Satan’s Lie: See how all those home school moms have families overflowing with children? God didn’t want to give you any more kids because you have decided not to home school like them.
GOD’S TRUTH: God is the one who has told me not to home school right now. This has nothing to do with Lucy.
Romans 14:22 The faith which you have, have as your own conviction before God. Happy is he who does not condemn himself in what He approves.
Romans 8:33 Who shall bring any charge against God’s elect? It is God who justifies.
Satan’s Lie: You have to live the rest of your life without your daughter. You will never be happy again.
GOD’S TRUTH: Lucy is not my true source of happiness, God is. He will heal me and fill me with joy again. One day I will go to be with Lucy and I will have her for eternity.
Psalm 16:11 You make known to me the path of life; in your presence there is fullness of joy; at your right hand are pleasures forevermore.
Psalm 147:3 He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds.
Jeremiah 31:13 I will turn their mourning into joy; I will comfort them and give them gladness for sorrow.
Satan’s Lie: Lucy is missing out on so much.
GOD’S TRUTH: She is living in perfect peace and joy and is surrounded with love. Her home in heaven is so much better than her home on earth. (See Lucy’s Present)
Psalm 84:10 For a day in your courts is better than a thousand elsewhere…
Luke 18:15-16 Now they were bringing even infants to Him that He might touch them. And when the disciples saw it, they rebuked them. But Jesus called them to Him, saying, “Let the children come to me, and do not hinder them, for to such belongs the kingdom of God.”
Revelation 21:4 He will wipe away every tear from their eyes, and death shall be no more, neither shall there be mourning, nor crying, nor pain anymore, for the former things have passed away.
Satan’s Lie: Look at her round belly and your flat stomach. You are a failure because you couldn’t bring your baby into the world alive. You should be ashamed of yourself.
GOD’S TRUTH: God is in control of everything, including whether Lucy lived or died. Her belly is round because He has allowed it, and my belly is flat because He has allowed it. Her belly will not be round forever and my belly will not be flat forever.
Philippians 1:20 And it is my eager expectation and hope that I will not be at all ashamed, but that with full courage now, as always, Christ will be honored in my body, whether by life or by death.
Isaiah 50:7 But the Lord God helps me; therefore I have not been disgraced; therefore I have set my face like a flint, and I know that I shall not be put to shame.
Isaiah 30:18 Yet the LORD longs to be gracious to you; therefore He will rise up to show you compassion. For the LORD is a God of justice. Blessed are all who wait for Him!
Satan’s Lie: God has abandoned you.
GOD’S TRUTH: God’s love is deeper and purer than any human’s love. He has promised to never leave us.
Isaiah 49:15,16 Can a woman forget her nursing child, that she should have no compassion on the son of her womb? Even these may forget, yet I will not forget you. Behold, I have engraved you on the palms of my hands.
Deuteronomy 31:8 The LORD Himself goes before you and will be with you; He will never leave you nor forsake you. Do not be afraid; do not be discouraged.
Romans 8:38,39 For I am convinced that neither death nor life, neither angels nor demons, neither the present nor the future, nor any powers, neither height nor depth, nor anything else in all creation, will be able to separate us from the love of God that is in Christ Jesus our Lord.
Deuteronomy 31:6 Be strong and courageous. Do not be afraid or terrified because of them, for the Lord your God goes with you; He will never leave you nor forsake you.
Satan’s Lie: There’s no way you can get through this. You aren’t strong enough to survive this.
GOD’S TRUTH: He is strong enough to conquer even death, and He lives inside me. He will strengthen me for anything that comes my way. I can rely on Him. I can trust Him.
Isaiah 40:29-31 He gives power to the faint, and to him who has no might He increases strength. Even youths shall faint and be weary, and young men shall fall exhausted; but they who wait for the Lord shall renew their strength; they shall mount up with wings like eagles; they shall run and not be weary; they shall walk and not faint.
Isaiah 43:1,2 But now, this is what the Lord says- He who created you, O Jacob, He who formed you, O Israel: “Fear not, for I have redeemed you; I have summoned you by my name; you are mine. When you pass through the waters, I will be with you; and when you pass through the rivers, they will not sweep over you. When you walk through the fire, you will not be burned; the flames will not set you ablaze. For I am the Lord, your God, the Holy One of Israel, your Savior.”
1 Peter 5:10 And after you have suffered a little while, the God of all grace, who has called you to His eternal glory in Christ, will Himself restore, confirm, strengthen, and establish you.
Philippians 4:13 I can do all things through Him who strengthens me.
AND HERE IS A PERSONAL MESSAGE FOR YOU, SATAN:
Revelation 12:10 And I heard a loud voice in heaven, saying, “Now the salvation and the power and the kingdom of our God and the authority of His Christ have come, for the accuser of our brothers has been thrown down, who accuses them day and night before our God.”
Romans 16:20 The God of peace will soon crush Satan under your feet.
Amen and amen. You know true healing has begun when He begins to separate the lies from the truth by His Word and through His Spirit. I was praying this with a friend earlier this week. The Lord gave me a mental picture of the surf–the strong waves (troubles, sorrow, pain) mix together the sand and water. The water looks cloudy and is gritty. But once it hits the shore (the true foundation, Jesus and His Word), the sand instantly begins to drop, the separation begins. And before you know it, the water is clear.
May our great and mighty Father continue the beautiful work He has begun in you. We love you Bethany. Thank you for sharing this powerful word.
….and you will know the truth and the truth shall set you free. John 8:32
God is doing an amazing work in you, Bethany! Thank you for you willingness to share this journey with the rest of us. Love you!
Thanks for sharing your heart, Bethany. Continuing to pray. God is using you in the lives of others through your openness.
Wow! Wow! Wow! such faith. such strength and beauty in weakness and sorrow. Such joy you’ve brought to our heavenly Father because you trust Him. When all around you cries you shouldn’t, you can sort out the Voice of Truth and Love from the ones of accusation and condemnation. Simply amazing. May I respond with humble, strong faith like you have, when it’s my turn to be tested and tried.
Love this post! I totally agree with the others! Thank you so much allowing yourself to be used of God in the midst of your brokenness.
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Thank you so much for sharing. Really needed to hear this!!
Thank you for the powerful reminder of these truths!
Hi Bethany, I just lost my daughter Hope Olivia 3 days ago at 18.5 weeks. I want you to know how much this post has brought comfort to me. It seems like God is so far away, but he is right here. I pray that your Lucy is up in heaven with a new playmate in my Hope. Thank you.
I’m so sorry you lost your daughter, Hope. I know it is the worst pain imaginable. I’m glad you commented on this post because I really needed to read it again. Satan is very cunning in his ability to sneak those lies back into my life. It’s good to read back over the truth and let it soak in. I’m praying that you will heal and that God will ease your pain. I bet Lucy welcomed Hope into heaven and they are playing together right now.
Our son was stillborn 8-15-13. I am printing and laminating this so that I can easily read it as needed. Thank you so much- I cannot express how much this post has helped me!
Sharon, I am so sorry you lost your son. And it is still so recent for you. Those first couple of months are just pure hell. I am praying for you now. You will heal one day and you will have joy again and one day you will have your baby boy in your arms.
Hey Bethany!! I came across your blog a couple of days ago and has been going back reading your story. I delivered my son still on 9/18/2013 @32 wks. He was our rainbow baby after losing twins 11/2012. We also have 3 girls at home. This post really touched me. I trust in God and his plan, but I still struggle with the “why is everyone pregnant and happy while I’m empty handed?” Or “was I such a bad mom that I didn’t deserve another?” Satan is always looking for a way to slide in and plant his lies, and losing our son was the perfect entrance. Thank you for reminding me about God’s truths and how much he loves me. Losing Aj wasn’t a punishment and doesn’t mean I’ll never have an opportunity to pregnant and bring home a healthy baby. I’m praying for you and your family.
I am so sorry for your losses. I’m glad this post helped you! It is so easy to believe Satan’s lies without even knowing it. I constantly have to go back to this post and read the verses again to remind myself of the truth. I am praying for you now.
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